When a relationship begins, a couple usually has sex at any time or place. The chemistry that is produced is one of the bases on which the affective bond begins to settle. However, many couples begin to worry when, over time, the caresses or the manifestations of desire of the spouse or their own diminish, perceiving how the flame that initially united them is extinguished. There are many couples who spend days and even months without sexual contact, and may even not enjoy it when they have it. In fact, studies carried out in the United States in the last five years have shown that around 15% of cohabiting relationships stop having sex for periods of between 2 and 6 months approximately. According to specialists, this decrease in sexual desire occurs due to various reasons such as economic problems, routine or living with other relatives, lack of privacy, children, work overload, high level of stress, poor communication , the lack of desire to seduce the partner when these factors are combined or the absence of novelty due to having sexual relations with a single person. However, this reality can be reversed, and it is also valid to point out that this absence of desire does not always imply that there is no love or that the relationship is going to have an end, but that much depends on each member of the couple and the will of each other. look for alternatives and adequate ways to recover it. How to do it?
Many scholars of the subject refer that sexual desire should not be constantly nurtured to recover what has been lost in the affective bond and to explore other experiences that can benefit the sexuality of the relationship. For example, it is suggested to practice better communication with your partner, express what you think or feel in this regard, your needs, desires, shortcomings, expectations, all of which is adequately, frankly and respectfully exposed in order to seek solutions between both parties.
Another suggestion is to connect directly with your partner without there being distractions that steal energy and time, such as, for example, moving away from the phones at times when a rapprochement may be appropriate, establishing certain times to turn off the mobile or TV and spend that time, instead, to talk or to caresses. It is also important to take care of the physical appearance, without assuming that we will not stop attracting the other person or that the relationship is consolidated. There are many who neglect their appearance and begin to gain weight, stop doing physical exercises, etc., all of which impacts self-esteem and, consequently, life as a couple. Regular physical activity has a positive impact on people's general well-being, but it is also often reflected in the desire to have sex.
Another significant aspect is that it should be about nurturing the couple's bond outside of bed to strengthen other aspects that may be interfering, being able to plan moments for fun together, pampering or talking about topics of common interest, and this can definitely return to rekindle the desire for the other. In addition, it is important not to make comparisons with other previous partners of our own or our partner, but should focus on the search for balance, satisfaction and happiness that a quality sexual encounter produces. Therefore, it will be more effective to invest in feeding fantasies, awakening the imagination and the senses that can lead to liven up pleasure.
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